Guide to Online Dating and eDating

Why You Have More To Offer Than You Think

2007-01-13T10:11:00.000-08:00

Why you have more to offer someone in the Online Dating world than you think, Part I. Some people visit online dating websites and see the dizzying array of beautiful people who all say they are athletic, slim, and fit. A person is left to wonder, why do all of these perfect people need the assistance of online dating. You look at yourself, and wonder out loud that if you looked like so and so, you would have no problems finding a date. Or you might wonder if this person looks like that and yet they can’t find a man or woman they must have some serious issues so you pass on them. The real truth of the matter is that most people on online dating websites lie.

Not the overt evil lies, but the innocent lies. In the book Freakonomics, the authors discuss the issue of online dating. For instance, the authors noted that women who online date are most likely to understate their true weight by 20 pounds. This translates on most online dating websites as stating your body type as slim when it should be fit, or fit when it should be average.

The key message is that you have more to offer than you think. Other people are not as perfect as they seem, and you are not as bad as you seem. Just take a step and get into the game.

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Online Dating in the Works

2007-01-02T19:05:00.000-08:00

Four of the biggest online dating websites are Match.com, eHarmony, Yahoo Personals, and PerfectMatch. All of these websites have over one million members, which is to your advantage. More members equal more opportunities. With over a million online daters at each of these sites allows you to pick and choose who you are interested in dating. It also allows you the opportunity to explore your options and narrow down your search to include what you are looking for in a mate. You should be able find a few good dates out of the million online daters that are out there looking for love. Some sites may offer more online daters in your local area than others sites. It is a good idea to review and compare each online dating website to see what features and services they offer before signing up to become a member. You can always join more than one online dating website, it would give you more to choose from. So now is the time to check out some of these online dating websites and find that special someone to enjoy the new year with.

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Dating tip one for women

2007-01-01T19:08:00.000-08:00

Let me talk to the women for a moment. Are you sick of dating losers? One mistake women make when they decide to date a guy is that they invest too much time, early in the relationship. Everyone loves the feeling of a new relationship. Everyone loves how they feel at the beginning, but you can't effectively weed people out if you are trying to keep the feeling going. When you online date, you need to meet the person right away. Do not spend time IMing the person, instead meet the person out at starbucks or any other comfortbale well lit public place. I would shy away from a bar, but just use your judgment. Spend 30 minutes, and decide if this person is worth seeing again. If you decide yes, don't spend time emailing the person or talking on the phone. All of those things require that you invest additional time into a relationship. Which, is what men want you to do, so that you feel that you have to work hard in order for the relationship to not fall apart.

Do not talk to a man on the phone for more than 20 minutes...PERIOD. Do not text message a man or read his texts. Do not send emails or IM. Do not do any of these things until you have had four dates. You do this and you will have the man for good.

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Online Date with the Help of your Friends

2006-12-24T14:08:00.000-08:00

Have you ever thought about online dating, but were a little hesitant about doing it because you don’t know anybody that has done it? Why not ask a friend to join you and search for love together? There are many benefits of having someone you know online date and an even bigger benefit by doing it together. There are five ways a friend can help out when it comes to online dating according to Online Dating with Friends: 5 Ways your Friends Can Help you Find Love Online. First, a friend could recommend potential online daters which double your chances of meeting that special someone. Second, two pairs of eyes are better than one so the both of you could spend time searching through potential online daters for each other. Third, you would be able to join a chat room with your friend and chat with other online daters as a group. This way, you would at least know one person in the chat room…your friend. Fourth, once you are ready to meet a potential online dater in person, you could arrange a double date with your friend and his/her potential online dater. Finally, you would be able to get a second opinion on a potential online dater if your friend is a member of the same online dating service. You friend could log on and view the potential online dater’s profile and give you feedback before you decide to chat or meet in person. So why not grab your friend and join an online dating service together and get started on finding that special one? You have nothing to lose, but everything to gain by dating online. It’s a great way to start out the New Year.

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Successful Tips for Online Dating

2006-11-26T20:37:00.000-08:00

A few guidelines to follow to be successful in the online dating world. First, it may be a good idea to invest in a webcam. A webcam allows you to view your potential online dater while communicating. Even though they can post pictures on their profile, a webcam allows you to see who they actually are and they cannot fool you by their looks. It will give you the best image as to what they really look it. Second, view profiles that have pictures. If someone is not willing to post a picture of themself, they may not be serious in online dating and/or they may have something to hide. Third, view profiles that have a lot of detail. The same rules apply to posting pictures, they may not be serious in online dating and/or they may have something to hide. Forth, you may also have better luck with paid sites instead of free sites. If someone is serious about online dating, they will pay an online dating website to find that special someone. Paid sites have a better selection of potential online daters. If someone has to use a free site to try and find that special someone, they are not worth it….they are cheap.

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Free Stealth Online Dating

2006-11-04T14:10:00.000-08:00

Many people believe they have to join an online dating website to find that special person, but many people are now using sites like myspace.com, friendster, facebook, and xpeeps (This site is very explicit, use judgment before going there and it is definitely not work friendly). These sites allow you to get a comfort level of having your picture and your information out there on the net without any fear of stigma of being a dater. Many people who are in relationships and even married maintain myspace profiles. This way you can get steeped into the online dating culture and learn to speak the language.

Try giving some of these social network websites a try and for more online dating information visit theguidetoedating.com.

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Technology Advancements Enhance Online Dating

2006-11-02T22:24:00.000-08:00

Online dating has advanced to the next level. Match.com has launched some new technology, Voice Chat, which is free for their basic subscribers. Speaking with a potential mate on the phone makes a big difference in the online dating world. Talking on the phone takes you to the next step when getting to know each other. If you are attracted to each other via chat or email, then it would be a good idea to try the new Voice Chat, known as matchTalk. MatchTalk allows you to go online and signal if you are interested in speaking to each other anonymously over the phone. Voice Chat allows you to talk on the phone to your potential online dater via the phone without actually exchanging phones numbers and personal information. This allows you to keep your privacy until you are ready to reveal who you are. This feature that is available through Match.com allows people with caller ID to see the matchTalk number instead of the potential online dater’s actual phone number listing. This is a great way to get to know somebody better and move forward with the online dating. It allows you to step away from the computer and talk to that special someone on the phone. You will have the luxury of hearing their voice and laugh, which is not available via emailing or chatting online. You could have many great conversations with this new Voice Chat technology and it may allow you to meet the man/woman of your dreams. It’s worth a try!

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Online and Offline Dating Safety

2006-10-19T22:06:00.000-07:00

Online dating is new and different, or so they say. If you scan the internet for news relating to online dating, you will be met with numerous stories harping about how dangerous it is. Well, it simply is not the case. How many women are raped by guys they meet at the bars? I would venture to say way more than the numbers of rapes committed by men they meet online. Believe me, the fact that one rape occurs is one too many, but it happens offline more times than it happens online. For instance, this doom and gloom story proves my point.

Do not be deterred by various sensualized horror stories about online dating. Experience it for yourself and be prepared. Visit www.theguidetoedating.com for more helpful online dating tips.

Another Date?

2006-10-15T19:23:00.000-07:00

So you finally met your online dater in person. What are you supposed to do after the first date? Well, that depends….do you want to go on a second date? If so, it wouldn’t hurt to send an email letting your date know that you had a great time. You could also mention that you would like to go on a second time to let him/her know that you are interested. You may even consider calling him/her to let them know you would enjoy another date and the opportunity to get to know each other better.

If there was no spark on the first date, then don’t even attempt a second time. If your date contacts you after the first date, simply let him/her know that you are not interested.

If the first date was ok, but not great, you may want to consider a second date. The second date may go better than the first date and you may find out that you really like each other. The first date may not go well because you both are nervous and don’t really know each other. You are trying to make a good first impression and may not be at the ultimate comfort level. So by going on a second date, hopefully, the both of you will be able to relax a little more and have a great time.

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Don't be Scared of the Rankings

2006-09-29T21:06:00.000-07:00

Some online dating websites are starting to have users rate other members of the website. If you are receiving good rating marks on your profile then great. If not, then this rating feature is not working in your favor. There could be several reasons why your profile is not receiving high marks. It would be as simple as the people that rated your profile don’t share the same common interests that you do. It could also be that you live in an area that is not very heavily populated, so you don’t have a lot of votes in your favor. Another possibility could be that there just aren’t too many online daters looking for what you have to offer. Whatever the reason may be, don’t lose hope. There are millions of online daters out there and you may have better luck trying another online dating website.

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Background Checks & Online Dating

2006-09-23T23:11:00.000-07:00

Criminal background checks are being mandated in the state of New York for online daters. A few other states may be headed in the same direction. This is a big controversial topic right now because online dating websites are saying that if a background check is done and something goes wrong on a date, then they will be held liable. Background checks create a false sense of security. The public is saying they would like background checks to be done prior to going on an online date because they want to feel safe. An article I read, “Regulating Love: Lawmakers Cracking Down on Web Dating Industry,” stated that it's nearly impossible for a dating service to put state boundaries around the service and comply with a patchwork of state laws. There are a few online dating websites, however, that do provide background checks, such as True.com and theBadge.org.

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Seniors Date Online

2006-09-16T08:13:00.000-07:00

Not only do young adults turn to online dating websites, but so do seniors. According to a recent article, Seniors Dive into Dating Pool, the 14.5 million seniors older than 65 are outnumbering twentysomethings at singles groups and online dating sites. It is common for women to live longer than men. There are a lot of senior women that has lost their husbands after many years of marriage. Not only do marriages provide love and security, but they also provide companionship. Losing a loved one can be devastating, leaving seniors to be lonely. Due to these reasons, many seniors are looking for companionship via online dating websites. There are niche dating sites for seniors, including Seniorfriendfinder.com and Seniormatch.com.

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Watch Out for the Unfaithful

2006-09-10T13:20:00.000-07:00

Technology advancement has lead to an increase in infidelity. It is much easier to find a willing partner due to high-tech advancements. The unfaithful can search online for partners instead of going to bars or clubs. Be careful when getting to know somebody that you meet online. Watch out for signs or clues that they may give that could indicate they are married or have a partner at home. According to an article I read, High-Tech Infidelity, 95 percent of the cases involve men and women who set up secret e-mail accounts for the purpose of cheating. Most people will discover their partner is cheating through emails. The cheaters may be unaware that they left some type of evidence to indicate they are having an affair. People will turn to the internet to have an affair…it’s convenient, easy, and accessible to meet people. Cheating is also easier to do because of personal cell phones, PDA’s, and laptops. Cheaters can privately email, call, or text message their other partners without their spouses finding out. Don’t be fooled, cheating can happen anywhere, anytime, anyplace. If your partner wants to cheat, he/she will. You need to be aware and cautious of what your partner could possibly be doing without you knowing. The common mistake people make is that they think my spouse would never cheat on me, so they don’t look into possible evidence any further even though it may be staring them straight in the face. I’m not saying that you should accuse your spouse of cheating for every little thing that seems strange to you. I’m just saying watch out and be careful for the unpredictable.

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Online Dating Can Be a Bumpy Ride

2006-09-09T10:24:00.000-07:00

Online dating can be like a rollercoaster. You will have some ups and downs along the way. You need to be the one that is in control when it comes to online dating. According to an article I read, The Internet Dating Rollercoaster: 7 Ways to Even Out the Ride, there are some ways to keep the rollercoaster ride under control. The purpose of posting a profile on an online dating website is to find a date; therefore, you should be the one to choose who you want to interact with on the website. You should be the one to send messages to people that interest you. If you receive a reply, great. If not, move on to the next potential interest. There is no reason to wait for people to initiate sending messages to you. First of all, you may not be interested in those people that send you messages, so you would be wasting your time. Second, you may not get too many messages and those that send messages may not even be seriously interested. You may also get inappropriate messages. You need to watch out for people that may not be serious and just want to chat. You can avoid these dilemmas by initiating messages to a potential interest. Don’t spend all of your free time at the computer waiting for a response. Have a life outside of the dating world. Most importantly, have fun!

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Beware of Local Online Dating Sites

2006-09-04T13:49:00.000-07:00

Online dating can be tricky. Some online dating websites may have you sign up just so they can get your personal information, email address, and phone number to sell to marketers and advertisers. You need to watch out for local online dating websites and the websites that offer service in small areas. An article I read mentioned that these websites that offer online dating services in small local areas are not the best sites to use because more than half of that area could be married and there wouldn't be a wide variety of singles to choose from. You will probably get the best results if you register with an online dating service that you have heard of and if you need any suggestions, try using one of the online dating websites that are listed in our links on the right side of the page. Online dating has become more popular due to people having less and less time to go out and meet people. People have crazy work/school schedules and they don't have a lot of free time to devote to meeting someone new. However, don't be fooled by these criminals, just join a dating website that has a good reputation.

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Honesty In Online Dating

2006-09-03T09:58:00.000-07:00

Honesty in online dating what a novel concept. One lesson I learned living in LA is not to waste people's time. Why post something that is not true about yourself. Why post a photo that is two years old? There is no excuse for someone to be on a online dating website and not have a photo or be able to get access to a photo of themselves.

Well here is a great concept for dating where daters leave comments about there dates. These comments can be positive or negative, but the aim is to get the truth out there. For instance, I am short...5'4" and about 135 pounds. I used to let everyone know that right from the jumpoff. When I met someone in person they were going to know my height...so why not just be honest with them and let them know what is up b4 the date and allow them to decide if they want to date me.

Here is an excellent story on this topic.

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Faith Based Online Dating

2006-09-02T16:19:00.000-07:00

Some say that love is a gift from God...or the very essence of the Lord. No wonder many religious men and women are turning to faith based websites to address their dating needs. For example, check out this article about in the DesmoinesRegister about faith based online dating websites. I belive that men and women of faith need to have a partner who can support them, who can give them strength when they are low. This is very important and if you date the wrong person your faith could be drained from you. It is easier to change someone that you do not know by example than someone that you love. We all know that it is easy to backslide.

Here are some links to various faith based dating websites:

Christian Singles

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Online Dating For Older People.

2006-03-24T19:44:00.000-08:00

I came across this article discussing that middle age men and women are turning to online dating in order to find love. The use of the edating or online dating if you will is not just for the younger generation. In fact Middle Age men and women might have ab easier time online dating than those who are 30+, because many of their children may already be online dating. So their is less of a stigma assoicated with online dating. In fact they might even get dating advice from their son's or daughters. I guess the family that online dates together stays together.

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Online Dating Scams #1

2006-03-16T12:35:00.000-08:00

Many potential online daters are scared off by scams. Recently, internet dating advisory websites, such as dontdatehimgirl.com has received lots of national publicity. This site, and sites like it, advise potential female online daters of cheating men and liars. However, it also allows men, who have been accused of such horrible things, to tell their side on the story.

This may be a helpful guide, but currently it is our opinion that it is unhelpful. However, a friend of this site has had women place ads on various online dating services warning other women to stay away from him. This appears to be a more effective tactic as our friend decided to abandoned those websites and use some of the websites that he found at theguidetoedating.com and more specifically mentioned in this article about online dating services.

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First Be Safe Then Make It A Quick First Meeting

2006-03-10T22:42:00.000-08:00

The first meeting between two online daters should take place in a public environment. At least one loved one (or not so loved one) should no where you are and what you are doing. I know dating is a private affair, but you still have to be safe. You should email that same loved one a copy of the online-dater's profile, phone number, and their email address.

A first meeting is not a date it is a meeting. Think of this as a time that you would meet someone at a party, grocery store, concert, class, and/or workplace and you get along with that person, so well you want to ask them out on a date. That is what the first meeting is... it is the precursor to a date. So do not worry about going out to coffee or drinks instead of going hiking or out to dinner. A first meeting allows both online daters to meet and confirm that the person behind the computer screen, IM, and phone really exists as they represented themselves to be.

Too many times I hear about online daters who are put off because the other dater suggest that they grab a drink or coffee instead of dinner. Believe me, this online dater is doing you a favor because what if you do not like them but now you are trapped to suffer through an hour long dinner with that person? Instead, be happy that this person is using some common sense and hoping for the best but preparing for the worse. A first meeting that involves coffee is a sign that the online dater is mature and wise and not stuck in a fairy-tale.

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Photos Are Mandatory For Online Dating

2006-03-09T20:57:00.000-08:00

A friend of mine called me and finally confessed that all of the eDating advice that I had given her, throughout the years, paid off after she decided to quit listening to the player haters sitting on the sidelines and start online dating. She joined an online dating service by using the Guide to eDating's online dating discounts.

She added some photos after reading this article about creating online dating profiles. Then she shared some rather banal information about herself and what she wanted in a man. After doing those two things she was bombarded with emails from guys (it helps when you have good pictures and when you are as attractive is she is!). Everything sounds great right? Wrong, a lot of these jokers either had nothing written in their eDating profiles and/or even worse they had no photos in their eDating profiles.

My friend is very afraid of a friend, co-worker, etc. seeing her picture on a dating website, but if she can overcome that fear why can't anyone? If you are afraid to post your photo on a online dating service you have no business online dating.

Now she realizes the importance of having photos in your dating profile and quality information in your profile. I am just glad that she was woman enough to admit to me that she was wrong to ignore my online dating advice. For more online dating advice please visit the Guide to eDating.

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There Are Two Types Of Online Daters: Hunters and Prey

2006-03-04T06:52:00.000-08:00

All online daters experience rejection. I do not know of anyone who likes to be rejected...it stings. Rejection makes you reconsider your self-worth. However, rejection is a natural part of dating. To be honest, if you are not being rejected seven or eight times a week you are simply not sending messages to enough online-daters. It is that simple.

I do not believe in a passive approach to online dating, with one caveat: if you are a member of one online dating service and you have your profile at another one just to see what that site provides. I discuss this online dating strategy here. Other than that you need to be the choosing your destiny. You cannot rely on hope, faith, luck and/or fate to bring the love you desire into your life. Faith, hope, fate and luck some times have to be "kicked" into action. Take an active role in shaping your own destiny.

One thing that I hear that annoys me is n00bs to online dating complaining that they only get contacted by losers. Well, at least those losers have enough courage to hold themselves out there. If you are sick of getting contacted by losers, the solution is easy: start hunting. Identify all of the “winners” on your online dating service and send them messages!

Devise a strategy and execute it. Don't be the prey be the hunter.

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